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Two Lies Every Emotional Eater Tells Themselves


If you're reading this blog post chances are good that you're either (a) Already aware that you're an emotional eater; or (b) Aware that you're overeating—but have no idea there's a good reason behind it. Both of you will tell yourselves the same two lies, however, at some point. Lies that will only serve to keep you stuck, and delay the return of your ability to eat normally.

I'm Not an Emotional Eater; I Just Like Food

This is the first lie. It's based on our reluctance to admit that we have a problem. And if we don't have a problem then there's nothing that needs fixing, end of story, now back to that Snickers bar.

The reality, of course, is that most people like food—that's how nature intended it—otherwise human beings would die as a species. There are those of us, however, who firmly believe that we have a greater appreciation for food; that food plays a more integral role in our lives and that eating a lot, and often, is simply part of our culture, our family, our lifestyle or even our job.

Believing and living this story is fine if you want to remain overweight and continue eating yourself into poor health. If that's the case, you needn't continue reading this blog—you'll find nothing of value in it. And yes, for the record, I acknowledge that there are those of us who may defy the odds and live a long and relatively healthy life in spite of habitual unhealthy eating—but the majority of us certainly will not.

Okay, I'm an Emotional Eater—But It's Really Not That Big a Deal

This is the second lie. It's based on our disdain for change. You see, change, in our estimation, means we will have to give up things. It means we will have to make an effort. And it means we will have to venture into the unknown.

Worst still: it means we might fail.

And so we lull ourselves into believing that things like arthritis, diabetes and heart disease are ailments that only happen to other overweight people—not us.

We tell ourselves that comfort food—foods saturated in sugar and/or salt and engineered by food scientists to deliver flavor mega-highs) are part of everyday living. American culture. What harm can this candy do? Look at how happy the people in the commercial are.

And heaven help anyone or anything that tries to come between us and our comfort.

Look around. We are in the grips of an obesity epidemic. And that epidemic has now reached our children. We are drowning in two things: Stress and food. And if we continue using the former to soothe the latter then the future looks very grim indeed.


Emotional eating is a remarkably simple concept: We eat our feelings instead of dealing with them. The remedy is just as simple: We learn how to deal with feelings like loneliness, boredom and depression instead of eating them.

The first step is to acknowledge that there is a problem. The second is to do something about it. If you're still on the fence, take advantage of my free emotional eating diagnostic. It will deliver you a personalized report on your eating habits in minutes.

We human beings are magnificent creatures. Within us reside great stores of intelligence and courage. Please remember that the reason we've survived and prospered this long has come down to our ability to adapt and change—magnificent traits that are as much a part of our DNA as the fear and doubt that so often keep us stuck.

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