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Overeating Keeps You on the Sidelines of Life

TUESDAY, MAY 20, 2008 | POSTED BY MICHELLE

Since people responded so well to the analogy blog I wrote last week, I've got another one for you.

Notice at a sporting event there are two groups of people:

The Players
&
The Spectators

Ever notice what the spectators are doing? They're eating and drinking. And lots of it, too.
Dodger Dogs...Ice-Cream Sundaes...Greasy Burgers...Peanuts...Buttered Popcorn....Nachos Smothered with Cheese....You name it!

Eating makes the experience of watching the game (for those that like the game and those that have no choice but to be there) more enjoyable.

Ever notice what the players are doing? They're playing. They're strategizing. They're maximizing on opportunities. They're falling and getting up again. They're striking out and then getting up at bat and trying harder the next time.

Ever see them eating? Imagine if Babe Ruth or Michael Jordon or Andre Agassi stopped in the middle of the game and had a binge right there on the court or field.

Pretty hard to imagine.

Overeating is a way that we stay safely on the sidelines of life. We keep ourselves out of the game and the only way to endure it, to pass the time, or make the time more pleasurable is to eat.

What ways are you using food to keep yourself out of the game of life?

Are you avoiding love and intimacy?
Are you avoiding finding new love or strengthening the relationship you're in?
Are you avoiding starting that business that you've always dreamed about?
Are you avoiding taking that dance class or going to Paris?

Take a risk. Find a way to put yourself in the game of life. Play a little.

Who knows it might be fun and heck, you might even find yourself having too much fun to stop and eat.



 
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Would You Give a Crying Child a Donut and Send Them Away?

TUESDAY, MAY 13, 2008 | POSTED BY MICHELLE

I thought of an analogy recently to explain the concept of Emotional Eating.

If your child came up to you panicked and crying would you ever think of handing them a donut and sending them away.
Most parents would say, "No, that would be cruel."
More likely, you'd ask them what happened, did someone hurt them, are they okay?
You might see what you could do to help.
Take them in your arms.
Reassure them in some way.
Rub their back, wipe their tears or smooth their hair.
You'd hear them out and at the end, they might even laugh and hug you in gratitude.

With the hurt gone, they can go about playing again.

When you eat to comfort yourself, you're basically giving the hurt person in you a piece of food and sending them away.
Sure, if you gave the child the donut, they might forget their problem for a few minutes, they might even quiet down.
But they wouldn't really be heard. They wouldn't learn how to problem solve. They wouldn't feel connected.

Some parents, with good intention, give their kids food when they're upset. After all, we all start with putting the crying baby to our breasts but we may keep offering food because we haven't learned new and better ways to be there for them.

The next time you're tempted to eat out of comfort, PAUSE, there is a hurt child inside you that needs you.
She is trying to tell you something.
Stop to ask her what's going on for her.
Don't shut her up with food, hear her out and offer her real comfort instead.



 
Put It on Paper

SUNDAY, MAY 4, 2008 | POSTED BY MICHELLE

All of us have good intentions that don't ever get fulfilled.

Weeks pass by and we don't keep the promises that we make to ourselves. The garage doesn't get cleaned. We don't exercise. We don't eat right. We don't sit down and play that board game with our kids (with cellphones muted).

You might call it laziness. You might call it self-sabotage. You might call it lack of discipline or willpower. Whatever you call it, here's a helpful hint to make it (whatever it is for you) happen this week...put it on paper.

You'd be amazed what gets done when you make a to-do list or keep a schedule. It gives us great satisfaction when we can tick things off on a to-do list. And schedules make us feel safe. One of our members was awe-struck at how well her week went after sitting down Sunday night and writing down the meals she was going to eat and the days she was going to exercise (she even added in when she was allowed an indulgence and what that indulgence would be).

So, this week try putting something on paper - and see how much easier it is to stick to it.

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